The Big Day: Tips for the perfect bachelorette party

 

Your bachelorette party should be a night to remember. It’s probably the one pre-wedding party the brides look forward to the most. Whether you organize it yourself or entrust it to your maid of honor, here are five bachelorette party ideas you will love:

  1. Get Crafty: Crafts have become a popular pastime than ever with more and more people honing their creative skills in different ways. Crafting has become so popular that craft cafes are popping up all over the place and if your bride wants a low-key bachelorette party, then organizing an afternoon at one of these places should be top of your idea-list. From cake decorating to jewelry making, candle making to even making your own lingerie, you should be able to find something that will release her inner creative diva! And once your creative juices have run dry, you can retire to a cocktail bar and muse over the things you have made.
  2. Get Your Dancing Shoes On: Does your bride like to bust a move?  How about a dance lesson? Pole-dancing was the big craze for bachelorette parties a few years ago but these days you can choose from ideas such as Glee style sessions with song and dance incorporated, to something a little more steamy with Dirty Dancing inspired classes. Why not work on a routine to entertain your guests later on at the wedding reception?
  3. Go Glam: A day of pampering is perhaps the most classic of all bachelorette parties but why not create an afternoon with a touch of vintage. Arrange an afternoon tea at a local hotel and set up services like hair, make-up and manicures with a 40s twist. If you have the budget, you can even hire in some retro costumes and a photographer to capture the day.
  4. For A Domestic Goddess: Sign yourselves up for a cooking course whether it’s baking darling cupcakes or producing a French classic, you can have some fun with an afternoon of culinary inspired adventures. Or go for an evening cocktail mixing class, where you get to taste your creations of course.
  5. The Weekend Retreat: In the last few years the traditional bachelorette party has evolved from being just one night of fun to covering an entire weekend. A weekend break at a chic retreat is a great choice to really spoil her. Jetting off abroad was commonplace especially as weekend breaks and flights were cheaper than staying at home but in these credit crunch times you may find it’s cheaper to keep it local.

Make sure everyone concerned knows what you want and what you don’t want at your party. “Bridezilla” is a well known bride-to-be condition but few talk about maids of honor who turn into megalomaniacs organizing insane parties that last several days, with different themes for each one, lots of travelling and a tight schedule of activities – all of which combine to become exhausting, expensive and a serious test of friendships.

Source: Wedding Source

 

Is it time to fine tune your dating search?

You’ve got it all: you’re single, attractive and successful, but still can’t find that special someone? The bar scene isn’t for you and your most recent set-up was an absolute disaster. Don’t worry. You’re not alone. Many singles feel the same way you do. They’ve tested the online dating scene and haven’t liked what they’ve found. Dating really is like a second job, so maybe it’s time to find so help?

Today, we’re more connected than ever. We have social media and online networking profiles galore, but we still fail to really connect with one another. Texting or emailing someone does not create a genuine connection. Meeting someone in person and sharing a drink or a meal allows you to observe how that person not only interacts with you but with those around you. Chemistry happens when you’re one-on-one, not when you’re staring at a computer screen.

Dating is like a second job. When you’re online or constantly looking at people on paper, it really takes the fun out of dating. Most singles don’t have a problem finding dates, but they can’t find “good” dates. After a round of bad matches and a busy schedule, it’s easy for one to feel like giving up on dating altogether.

But you shouldn’t give up. Think about dating as the fun activity it’s meant to be. Give yourself the time to get to know somebody. Just let yourself have fun. Every date doesn’t have to end in marriage. You have the right to be choosey, but let yourself enjoy to journey of finding Mr. or Ms. Right.

Keeping the Faith

Planning a wedding can be a stressful time for a couple. There are so many moving pieces and details that need sorting out, with heated opinions bombarding the couple from all sides — especially as far as in-laws are concerned. This can be a delicate predicament to find yourself in. Remember that it’s important to give equal attention to both sides so that everyone feels heard and that their ideas are valued. The ultimate goal is ensuring that compromises are made in order to keep everyone as happy as possible.

When you add different religious backgrounds to the mix, wedding planning can become that much more difficult and stressful. How can you acknowledge the varying religious elements in your ceremony and still keep things flowing smoothly? My hope is that a couple has already discussed their spiritual beliefs before becoming engaged.  Hashing out any potential conflicts before the stress of family is added is the ideal route and gives the engaged couple an idea of how to address them for the wedding ceremony. This better prepares them to deal with potential familial issues as a unified front.

A wonderful way to make both sides of the family happy is to have a blended ceremony. Blended ceremonies can be especially beautiful because they highlight the most revered customs for both religions. It also gives a unique feel to your ceremony and makes it stand out to your guests, giving them something special to remember. More importantly, incorporating these traditions shows your family that you respect your faith and their feelings.

The Jewish Cuppah

The best approach is to find out which key customs must be included into the ceremony and plan everything else around them. Perhaps the bride’s parents insist the ceremony be performed under a chuppah (canopy) and that she circle the groom seven times before standing next to him, per Jewish tradition. Similarly, his Protestant parents may be adamant about having their pastor officiate the ceremony and open with a prayer, as well as close with a hymn and blessing. The idea is to include as many vital elements as possible without creating a messy ceremony stew.

For couples who do not themselves feel strongly about religion but come from families that are solidly rooted in a specific faith, planning the wedding ceremony may actually be easier — especially if their parents (or other extended family members) tend to be the type who do not to budge. In this case, a couple can appease their relatives by giving them what they want without necessarily sacrificing their own beliefs. If you tend to be easygoing, you will find planning that much less stressful.

Remember — when you marry a person, you marry his or her family. The wedding is the first step you take as a couple, so make sure to get off on the right foot. You want to have a memorable wedding, but for all the right reasons… not because the process made you question eloping in Vegas. Happy planning!

No post this week

I won’t be posting this week. We’ve been battling power outages left over from the crazy storm here in Washington, D.C. last week. My main focus has been getting caught up with our clients.

See you next week when I’ll discuss the challenges of religion when getting married.