Holiday dating: Five ways to get back into the scene

Does the onslaught of the holidays have to inadvertently feeling Grinch-like because, again, you’ve been reminded that you’re single and not excited about celebrating solo? Getting back into the dating scene can be tough, but it’s not impossible. Use the holiday season as the push you need to get your fabulous self back out into the world.

Here are 5 ways to get back into the dating scene this month:

Get yourself into the mood.

Attitude is everything. Acting mopey and melancholy during the most cheerful time of the year is going to backfire on you. Nobody likes that person, especially now, so do whatever you need to put some holiday pep in your step.

Stop fixating on prior holidays (when you were coupled-up).

Yes, this time of year, especially, brings back memories of things you and your ex had done together. However, instead of breaking down at the sight of an ornament, change your mindset. It’s time for new traditions, with or without him/her, and you’re better for it.

Take advantage of holiday mixers.

I’ve said this in previous posts and I’ll say it again: The holidays are a great time to meet new people.  This time of year is spotted with all sorts of themed parties and get-togethers; what better excuse do you have to wear a hideous sweater or Santa Claus red lipstick?

Be Thankful For What You Do Have.

You may not have everything you want in life as of this moment, but it doesn’t mean that you won’t. Be appreciative for what you do have – make a list. (And you don’t have to show your list to anyone, so it’s OK to be a little vain, “I’m thankful for having great hair, my new iPhone, and that I nailed that presentation last week,” can fit alongside more traditional sentiments, like, “I’m thankful my brother and I are so close.”)

Let Go.

You’re now starting to look back on the course of an entire year of your life and probably a lot has happened. It’s time to let go of all the negativity, drama, and grudges you’ve been harboring. They will only hurt you and get in the way of your future happiness. Grant forgiveness, cut unnecessary ties, and move on from the “bad;” you deserve happiness and all that it attracts.

Spotting trends: Gray Divorce

We’re trend spotters here at Premier Match and here’s the latest one: Gray Divorce.

I wrote about this topic a couple of months ago, but after looking into the dating trends of my clients at Premier Match, it became clear that over the past 5 years, our client based of those aged 50 and over increased by 30 percent.

Yahoo! thought the story was so interesting that it picked up my news release: