Figuring Out What You Want

In a recent blog post, we discussed how open communication between two people can build trust and allow relationships to grow. But how can you know what to communicate to your significant other if you aren’t even sure yourself? The introspection involved in figuring out what you want is a long process, but it’s necessary to understand yourself so you can become a better person, and a better partner.

The easiest way to organize your thoughts is to write down a list of what you are looking for in a partner—not so much what you want this person to do for fun or their physical characteristics, but rather the attributes or personal traits that you find attractive and would fit in well with your lifestyle. For instance, you may like adventurous men, but if you don’t like to travel, you may have to re-assess your criteria. When we match our clients with one another we pay attention to these details, and you should too. Finding a person that suits your present needs is fine but if you are considering this person for the long term you will need to know for sure what kind of person you’re dealing with so both of you can benefit.

Also, when seeking out long-term, committed relationships, it’s wise to understand your flaws and the areas you need to work on before bringing another person into your life. By addressing yourself and striving to be a better person, you can become not only a more attractive partner, but a person who will be able to hold on to their partner permanently.

Relationship Communication: The Key to Success

We have all heard that “communication is the key to success” in business, relationships, and life in general. But what kind of communication is necessary to keep a relationship healthy and happy? The following tips below regarding relationship communication will offer you a way to build a solid foundation for a new relationship.

–          Understand that communication in a relationship can be difficult because it makes a person feel uncomfortable and vulnerable. But by letting your partner know that your communication can be a safe zone, without judgment or conflict it will allow him/her to know that they can come to you with anything and that you will be supportive.

–           At the beginning of the relationship, find out not only about their hobbies, their family life, and their dreams for the future—but also dig deeper into how they handle stressful situations, what really makes them happy, and how you plan to integrate your lives. The more you can discuss in open dialogue, without fear of your flaws or mistakes being used against you, the more your relationship will blossom.

–          Keep the relationship communication honest. Letting your partner know where you stand is vital in understanding your outlook and experience. This may require courage or self-inspection, but the rewards are incalculable. When both parties understand the feelings of their partner, their worries and uncertainties are cast aside. Communication ultimately becomes the bridge between two people and ensures that a relationship can flourish.