Heartbreak isn’t easily extinguished. Sometimes it seems impossible to get over a person with whom you’ve shared significant moments, whether your relationship lasted a few months or several years. Getting over your ex is a struggle, but it is critical for your emotional and physical health to move forward in life.
At Premier Match, we work with many single individuals that have had a hard time getting over an ex. We coach our clients to realize that the best way to start a new chapter in your love life is to follow these few simple steps towards recovery:
- First and foremost, if your ex is still looming large in your thoughts, you need to address these feelings and realize that the only way to move forward with a new situation is to relieve yourself of this past pain.
- Don’t remember the positive moments in isolation. Stop reminiscing about the good times and acknowledge that the unhappy moments of what went on are what caused you to break up with your ex in the first place. Hanging on to the past will only hinder your progress moving forward.
- Don’t “keep in touch” for a while. You need space and time away from communicating. This break will allow you the opportunity to meet some new people, catch up with some old friends – and not reveal to your ex what you have been up to.
- If you have severed ties completely, GOOD, you are on the right path to recovery. However, with social media constantly reminding us of our exes and their lives, it’s easy to get pulled back in. We highly recommend “unfriending” your ex and those of his/her social circle: family and friends. You don’t need to be reminded of parties, events and other gathering that show your ex in pictures and posts.
- Don’t get stuck on the past. Find a new goal – whether it’s business-related, creative, or fitness – that will help you stay motivated and get your mind off your ex.
- If you need to talk to someone, don’t be afraid to speak up. Reach out to those that you are close to; your immediate family members and dear friends. If seeking out a therapist is something you would be open to, we highly recommend reaching out to one. Sometimes talking things through to a third party – especially a highly trained specialist – can be extremely beneficial for your recovery.