When it comes to looking for a romantic partner, what is the most important quality that you would consider? In a recent survey, half of Americans agreed that the most import quality their future partner should possess is a “shared interest.” While the usual qualities, such as physical appearance, financial stability, a source of income, and a sense of humor were predictably among the answers, it seems the importance of a shared interest was clearly number one.
As professional and experienced matchmakers, we were not surprised by this finding. Given the amount of time that most people want to spend with one another, they should share some common ground involving interests. And while many people may think that “opposites attract” we just do not believe in that philosophy. Through the years of matching clients and witnessing relationships develop it seems the common bond that keeps relationships intact deals primarily with the couples’ shared interests.
So for those of you that are out there dating, pay attention to your dates’ interests. And just remember, while looks, humor and financial well being may help a relationship along, it’s the common bond of shared interests that will keep it going strong!
Commonly accepted wisdom tells us that so called “rebound” relationships are not a great idea if you are fresh out of a relationship and still have feelings for your former partner.
However, according to a recent study, held by the Department of Psychology at City University of New York (CUNY) researchers found evidence that proves rebound relationships are actually beneficial ~offering one more confidence and providing more resolution with ex-partners.
The study at CUNY examined several hundred people who recently experienced a breakup. The Dept assessed their well-being, their feelings about their ex-partner and whether or not they were seeing someone new. Analyses indicated that those that had entered into a new relationship were definitely more confident, felt more attractive and desirable, and felt that they were in a better emotional state of well being than their counterparts who had not reentered the dating scene.
This is interesting to find out, because as personal matchmakers we have to agree with the study. We have worked with many clients that have been involved with rebound relationships and while some may not have had the best experiences, it seems a lot more confessed they were grateful to have entered into rebounds after a breakup. Over the years we have documented our interviews and have recorded what our clients have said about rebounds. Many stated that these relationships provided them with higher levels of happiness and a healthier outlook on life and love.
So would you agree with this evidence? Perhaps you have experienced a rebound relationship or are still in one presently. We would love to know your thoughts.
When it comes to what is acceptable and what is non-negotiable in a relationship, it appears that single professionals know exactly what they want and what they can overlook. Out of over 5,000 singles who completed a recent survey, more than half said they would not cancel a date because of something they found on Google about their date, nor would they cancel if they found out that someone was still living at home with their parents. The majority of those surveyed, 58%, said they would date a virgin and 53% reported never having had a ‘friends with benefits’ type relationship.
It also was discovered that there weren’t that many differences in opinions when each sex was looked at separately. Both men and women reported that they judge their potential partners on their teeth, hair, grammar, and clothes as their top four criteria. Also, it appears that the majority of both men and women felt the least important criteria was to find someone of similar ethnic background to themselves.
Manners and trust were also shown to be important ~ whereas 84% of women said that in a relationship, a partner who treats them with respect is a must-have, and 63% of men said they strongly prefer a partner they can trust and confide in.
Would you agree with these recent findings?