Because we are emotional beings, recovering from heartbreak is not just a matter of getting over the loss of a relationship or dealing with a rejection. We also have to do the work to rebuild our confidence, as we often internalize the end of a relationship or a rejection as a failure. Not only do we have to regain the courage to date or make ourselves available for dating, we have to choose to think and believe that we are worth dating and that just because our last relationship ended doesn’t mean the next one will end.
Confidence isn’t something anyone else can give you; it’s an internal positive belief about yourself. Therefore, when you’re ready to get back into the dating game, you must do so knowing what you bring to the table. Take note of what you have going for you, what you can offer a partner, and approach people and situations with your head held high. What you’ve been through or who broke up with you doesn’t define who you are as a person. Try out things you’ve always wanted to, but haven’t yet, take a new class, try a new sport, and be open to meeting new people.
While you’re changing your thinking and deciding to get your confidence back and get back into the dating game, be sure to take care of yourself. Find the things that make you happy, make you feel at peace, and make you feel good physically and do more of that. Exercise regularly and eat whole, nutritious foods. The better you feel, the more confident you will automatically be. Heartbreak is known to have negative physical effects on the body and emotions, so replenish what was lost and take good care of you.