Happy New Year to all our Readers! As the New Year unfolds and we head into later January, a lot of single people are getting back into the grove of dating. At Premier, we always notice an uptick in business; setting appointments and signing up new members, reactivating clients that placed memberships on hold, matchmaking/facilitating introductions and “managing” accounts. How are we managing? We are managing our clients’ online dating accounts; assisting them with their personal online searches. Through our research and experiences we’ve been able come up with a very unique and special strategy on how to get the most out of online dating and seek out potential singles that are sincere in wanting serious relationships.
For this blog entry we thought we might share some basic online profile tips that may be helpful to you. Whether you’ve been online for while or are considering joining one of the sites, below are the Top 5 Tips on how to create the most effective online profile and succeed with online dating.
1. Create a Profile that is Short and Sweet
Since everyone online is basically surfing through lots of profiles, the shorter the bios the better. Research has shown that profiles that contain shorter paragraphs tend to be more eye-catching and are therefore read more thoroughly. Be concise when explaining who you are and what you’re looking for. Keep it fun, light and airy. Make sure to keep the comments positive as well.
2. Market yourself with the Best Pictures you have
Believe it or not, most people will either accept or deny your profile simply by looking at your photos ~ so only select pictures that show you in your best light and of course, only pick photos that are recent and are in focus. Remember, you’re marketing yourself, so it’s better to pick the top two or three best shots that you have rather than add any more that might be just OK. When selecting pictures, it might be worth investing in having professional shots taken. If you can’t afford that, then select some pictures you like and ask some friends and/or family members what photos they think are the best and go with the general consensus on which ones to use.
3. Honesty Matters more than you think
Remember that everything you offer will eventually be found out when you meet face to face, so keep it honest. It has been known that adults tend to seek out partners who are out of their league, notes Derek Kreager, an associate professor of sociology at Pennsylvania State University, who recently published his research on this topic in the Journal of Marriage and Family. While it seems tempting to embellish a profile since readers cannot see you in person…beware! For if you lie, a potential date will find out the truth (about your height, your weight, your age) eventually anyway when you meet, so keep the facts straight otherwise the whole encounter will have been a huge waste of time and energy.
4. Check your Grammar and Spelling
When you write your profile make sure to use proper grammar throughout and avoid slang. Also double check your spelling and check for typos. It is a real turnoff for a reader to read through a bio that contains poor grammar, multiple spelling errors and typos. It will lower your chances of being contacted and tarnish your image as you’ll unfortunately be perceived as sloppy and less educated than you are.
5. Shine through with Similarities
When you begin introducing yourself to others you’re interested in, remember that the introductions that achieve the best responses are those that give a reason why the reader would want to respond back. Common ground is critical. Read through a selected person’s interests and touch upon them in your introduction. Reveal a few thoughts or experiences of your own that will make the intro a lot more personalized and heartfelt. If you both recently skied in Vermont, mention this and tell him/her which resort you enjoyed. If volunteering is important to this person, as it is with you, mention which causes you’ve been involved with and why. Offer more substantial comments rather than just mentioning generic statements that could be sent to anyone.